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Very slowly and cautiously. We may seem demure, distant, and subdued. We are still in the process of getting those oh-so-important pleasure centers in the brain re-wired. We are trying to get back the person we were before we became alcoholics. Very often, the recovering alcoholic is both secretly miserable and humbled by our condition. We are always afraid of that one slip up that will take us back into the abyss. It takes years to foster the habit into something that becomes so much a part of yourself, letting it go seems like letting go a piece of yourself. In other words, if you were dating ME, this is what I would want you to know. Recovering alcoholics are hurting. We have been shamed, vilified, and have a lot of past trauma rolling around in our brain. We lost people in our lives that we truly loved and did not want to hurt. Tip: Know this, and avoid asking questions about it. At least not until we are comfortable enough with you to discuss the past. Recovering alcoholics may be emotionally needy. Just as if we had split up from a relationship or maybe we have we had a relationship with alcohol. There were times when we thought that alcohol was the only thing there for us. It was our boyfriend, our lover, and our BBF. We are missing a crucial reward mechanism, and we are looking to fill it. Tip: Be wary of dating a recovering alcoholic that moves too fast. Recovering alcoholics may be literally, sober. Sometimes we may be melancholy, or appear apathetic. As I said, we have lost one of our more popular pleasures, or at least as how we perceive it. Tip: We will probably never be exactly who we were before the alcohol entered our lives, but be prepared for personality changes along the way. They may or may not be positive. Recovering alcoholics will usually tell you what they can handle. That is, do we mind if you drink anyway? Can we be in establishments that serve alcohol without succumbing to our addiction? Tip: These are questions you will need to have answered so you will know what boundaries you need to set for yourself and the relationship. Recovering alcoholics may lie. We lie to ourselves, and we lie to others about the extent of our addiction. It may be impossible to know when this happens, but know that we are probably not be 100% truthful about our past. Also, note negative personality changes. It may be a signal that he or she has returned to drinking. Finally, remember that we are humans who are damaged and trying to fix ourselves. We have already started on a path of personal recovery and development, and you must adhere to that path if you are going to be with us, help us, and not hinder us.
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